Meredith Baxter once admitted that she disliked her big breasts and believed her cancer was a blessing in disguise; she has since written a book and starred in a movie about breast cancer.
Meredith Baxter is a sitcom veteran most known for her role as Elyse Keaton on the 80’s sitcom “Family Ties,” which followed her big break in the early 70s in the sitcom “Bridget Loves Bernie.”
She played Catholic teacher Bridget Fitzgerald on the show from 1972 to 1973. Baxter then appeared on “Family” from 1976 to 1980 as Nancy Lawrence, a divorced mother.
Although Baxter’s acting career was mainly in television, she did star in a few movies during her early career, including a horror film called “The Cat Creature” and in the drama “The Stranger Who Looks Like Me.”
Baxter became a memoirist in her later life, as she published her autobiography, “Untied: A Memoir of Family, Fame, and Floundering” in 2011.
In her memoir, Baxter wrote of her struggles with alcohol while filming “Family Ties,” her family life, her battle with breast cancer, and the moment she came out as a lesbian on the “Today” show.
Baxter has been candid about her life experiences in various interviews, especially her relationship with her fuller chest and how cancer impacted her life.
The actress did not like her breasts, as she told Page Six that they were the “plague of my life” during her early TV career as TV executives would make lewd comments and look at her chest.
She explained that while others might think having people “lusting after you” would be good. She found it to be an aggressive act as she was turned into a sexual object. Baxter told the outlet:
“That’s not lust, that’s aggression. “Let me take your power away by turning you into a sexual object.” You can’t even open your mouth then.”
In 1999, Baxter battled breast cancer. However, she described the illness as a blessing in disguise as it caused her to have a breast reduction which, for Baxter, was one of the upsides of having cancer.
Her experiences with cancer were helpful when she portrayed Joyce Walder in the movie “My Breast.” Walder adapted the teleplay for the film from her own book.
In the movie, Baxter played People writer Walder, and it followed her journey with discovering she had breast cancer, undergoing chemotherapy, all while juggling the men in her life.
She starred alongside Jamey Sheridan, who played Nick DiStefano, a former colleague and love interest, and James Sutorius played Walder’s good friend, Herb.
Baxter could lean on her real-life experiences with breast cancer to portray Walder and the emotions that surface when dealing with cancer, such as the diagnosis and going through treatment.
She also shared that she did not use a body double during the breast examination scene. However, an actual medical physician examined her chest during the scene instead of the actor cast as the doctor.
Baxter gave insight into her decision not to have a body double for the intimate scene during an interview with The Washington Post. She explained it was essential to show the whole woman:
“…this was about the whole woman. Breasts have achieved this dubious stature of being this symbol of femininity, and it’s very important this story is about the whole woman.”
The movie came out in 1994 on CBS, and since then, Baxter has lived a busy life, including writing and publishing her book, discovering her sexuality, and getting married.
Before meeting and marrying her wife, Nancy Locke, Baxter was married three times and welcomed five children. She first married Robert Lewis Bush in 1966 when she was only 19 years old.
The couple was together for three years because they separated in 1969. Their divorce was finalized in 1971. During their three years together, they had two children, Theodore and Eva.
Later she married her “Bridget Loves Bernie” costar, David Birney, in 1974. They were married for 15 years and welcomed three children, Kathleen and twins Mollie and Peter.
Baxter’s third husband was the late screenwriter and novelist Michael Blodgett, who she married in 1995. The couple was divorced in 2000.
During her second marriage, Baxter struggled with relying on alcohol to soothe her unhappiness. She wrote about her experience with alcohol in her book and also discussed it during various interviews.
In 2011, Baxter said she struggled with drinking during her “Family Ties” days as she would drink a tumbler of wine on her way home from set. She shared:
“I would drink all the way home from the Family Ties studio. I didn’t stop drinking until the marriage [to actor David Birney] was over.”
She explained that alcohol had “started to serve a purpose” because she was miserable and had nowhere to express her emotions. So she turned to alcohol.
Baxter got sober in 1990 after a producer commented that she thought Baxter had a problem with alcohol as her eyes were glazed over and no one could understand what she was staying.
She then signed up for a 12 step program to “get people off [her] back.” It took ten years for her to get “the gift of desperation” and throw herself into the program and focus on the work she needed to do.
MEETING LOCKE AND COMING OUT
Fifteen years into her sobriety, she got a call from her future wife. Locke had “thought it would be a good idea to look at being sober,” and a mutual friend encouraged her to contact Baxter for help.
The pair met up for coffee and instantly began a friendship. Baxter had realized she was a lesbian in 2002 after having her first relationship with a woman.
She told Locke about her identity as she wanted to be honest about herself going into the friendship. However, she was not publicly out yet. In 2009, she appeared on “Today” and shared her sexuality with Matt Lauer and the world.
After informing Locke of her sexuality, their coffee meet-ups turned into nights out getting dinner and watching movies. Then in 2006, the friends admitted they had romantic feelings for one another.
Their friendship became a relationship. However, Baxter was still guarded with her emotions because of her previous marriages and was nervous about how her audience would react to her sexuality.
Their relationship ran smoothly for a few years until, in 2009, the couple decided to attend a lesbian cruise. Baxter did want the media to reveal her relationship, so instead, she appeared on TV and announced it herself.
The public exposure brought the couple closer. In 2013, after the Defense of Marriage Act was overturned, Locke and Baxter decided to get married, which they did on a cold December day.